I’m no luddite but it’d be fair to say that I’m not an ‘early adopter’ either [luddite = opponent of new technology]. I still have to give one of the young lads at church a call to get the DVD Recorder to work [Bruce if you’re reading this I need another tutorial – tried to record the cricket and got 45 minutes of ‘snow’]. The latest phenomenon that I’ve been slow to endorse is Facebook. I’ve only ever seen it once and when I visited the site I found a picture of me with the additional appendage of a redneck beard. The boys at Quirky Motion were clearly having a quiet week!
Facebook is the social networking tool that’s replaced MySpace as the ‘de rigeur’ site for virtual interaction and communication. It’s nothing less than a phenomenon. There are apparently 30 million registered users. Most of them are young adults. I’m no longer a young adult and so it’s not come into my purview until recently. But Facebook has now reached the tipping point. It’s gone from being ‘niche’ to becoming ‘mainstream’. People’s Dads are now registering! That’s why it’s come onto my radar.
Actually, it’s been buzzing around in the background of church life for a few months now. At first it seemed a brilliant way to facilitate what’s been described as ‘social networking’. And undoubtedly there are many positive things to be said about it. Andrew Lim, a fellow touch rugby player from my time at Moore Theological College Sydney, has listed the positives here and here. I’m inclined to agree with him. Like any relationship forming tool this has great potential for the gospel but I’m also aware that we’re in danger of uncritically accepting something of which we ought to be a little more cautious. There’s a need perhaps for discretion and discernment in our use of this tool.
None of my worries are determinative but let me express my reservations.
1. Facebook may be another distracting influence
On average people spend 19 minutes a day on Facebook. That’s not awful. But many Christians fail to find the time to open their Bibles and pray. I know that we’re not justified by the ‘quiet time’ but that can’t be right can it? Daisy Goodwin, writing in the Times, said ‘my habit is under control, but only just’. And that’s the point. It’s another tempting distraction that can quickly become addictive. If someone is poking us, leaving messages on the board, asking us to be our friend and so on it’s very easy to be checking our profile more often that our employers might like and more often that might be considered healthy!
2. Facebook encourages loveless interaction
Despite its name, its essentially faceless communication. That carries great dangers. Here are a few of the more obvious risks.
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Social convention means that if we’re in a group of people and one or more are being left out of the conversation we make every effort to include them. Online we don’t feel the same obligation to help those who are a little on the periphery.
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Whilst we’d never deliberately blank someone in real life, there’s no real issue in the virtual world. We just leave their advances unaddressed or we never even bother to include them.
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We can be misunderstood because human communication involves more than words. I remember being told that a ‘senior saint’ had tried to discourage a young church leader from his habit of writing strongly worded letters. His reason was, ‘letters can’t smile’. His point was simply that much of our communication is non verbal and we can soften what’s said or strengthen what’s said through the intonation of our voice, our mannerisms, the eyes and perhaps all manner of things that might be termed ‘body language’. We can’t do virtual body language. Not even those small yellow characters [emotions?] that smile and wink and so on can complement our communication to the degree that a raised eyebrow or a shrug of the shoulders can manage.
We need to be aware that, perhaps inadvertently, we can be neglectful of what might be described as ’social graces’. In all our social interaction we must love one another. I know that we know that, I just think it’s harder to do online.
3. Facebook can help us create a virtual Amish community
We mustn’t be naïve about the tendency amongst some evangelicals to want to retreat from the world into the safety of the Christian ghetto. It’s such a safe place to be. And let’s be honest, contrary to the world’s perception of church, it’s terrific. After all, it’s what the new creation will be like, except without the sin. Rather than interacting with the unbelieving and occasionally antagonistic world we can run for cover and seek refuge amongst those who already agree with us on most things. But Jesus wants his church to be outward orientated and I fear that social networking sites simply play to our inclination to want to mix with people like us. So if we’re using Facebook in an exclusive and introverted way then I’ve got issues. That’s especially the case when it’s used for church groups. Just as we should at church, so we have to make every effort online to invite and include absolutely everyone. Not everyone will want to sign up to Facebook. Perhaps they know that they’ll be tempted to waste time and so they’ll want to keep it arms’ length. I guess I fall into that category. If the alternative to working hard at the Greek text for a Sunday sermon is some playful banter via the internet it doesn’t take a professional psychologist to work out which one panders to my sinful nature! Therefore our invitations to parties, social gatherings and so on must not only be given via Facebook. Sure we can use e-mail and text but how about phoning people up and talking - just like the good old days!
I may be over reacting. This may be an unjustified rant. But I think I’ve got a point. Some may disagree. I just hope that someone tells me to my face!